My Life (1981 – now): A Review

Happy Water Dragon Lunar New Year! (Gong Xi Fa Cai!) With new year, comes new hopes and aspirations. So I thought I’ll do a review of my life thus far. This is my first time doing a life review.

What triggers me to do a life review? Well, time flies and life is short. So I need to examine whether I have been living the way I want it to be. It’s the right time for a review, because the year 2011 (metal rabbit lunar year) had been so special to me in many ways:

  • January 2011: I got married
  • April 2011: I got promoted (my first-ever promotion in a job)
  • July 2011: I hit the big 3-0 (I’m 30 years old)
  • September 2011: I traveled to central Europe for the first time. I had a super good time there.
  • November 2011: For the first time in my life, I spoke in front of an audience about something that I’m passionate about (no, it’s not directly related to my work).
  • December 2011: the biggest achievement in my life so far: I became a father.

Not bad eh? After all those achievements, you probably think that I’m contented and happy.

But I’m not…

Hold your judgment. I’m not a greedy ungrateful dude that you think I’m. I’m not contented because I miss my life, back in 1999. That’s when everything in my life went so well. I managed to prove people wrong. No one believed I could achieve my dreams. But I did it! I went to National University of Singapore, and I got a pretty girlfriend.

Ah, the sweet taste of victory. This movie clip pretty much described my feelings in 1999.

Oh gosh! Now I get it. I know the result of my life review now. Here it is:

My current life sucks

Yep, that’s true. My life sucks. Despite all my achievements, I don’t feel any glory like the one that I had in 1999. And my current life doesn’t lead me to shout: “I’m the king of the world!” (that’s how I felt back in 1999). I have nothing to shout about now. My life thus far has been average. Average in happiness and success. Simply average in every angle!

It’s not about being grateful for what I have (I’m grateful for everything that I have now). But it’s about being outstanding – not being average. It’s about wanting more and about shaping the world around me, the way I want it. Sounds crazy, doesn’t it? Listen to Steve Jobs in the interview clip below, and you’ll see that I’m not so crazy after all.

I know I’m capable of achieving so much more. I believe in myself. I believe in my ability – because no one else will.

It’s 2012 (water dragon lunar year). And I have bigger dreams now. I won’t tell you what these dreams are, because according to Derek Sivers, I have to keep my goals to myself. But mark my words: I will make these dreams come true – just like I did in 1999. (I will “go get it. Period.”)

Why SMRT Has to Be More Empathetic and Be a Social Organisation (Part I)

SMRT (Singapore MRT operator) has a huge problem. No, I’m not talking about profits. As the sole operator of MRT in Singapore, they must have been reaping millions of dollars of profits. SMRT’s problem is two-fold. First, its top management has lack of empathy. Second, the organisation doesn’t know how to deal with social customers.

These fatal flaws severely damaged SMRT’s corporate image and handicapped SMRT’s ability to recover its credibility in the eyes of the Singapore public. In this blog post, I’ll talk about the first fatal flaw, i.e. the lack of empathy, and convince you that SMRT’s top management can be more empathetic, by mastering corporate storytelling to present facts. I’ll talk about the second fatal flaw in the next post.

Lack of Empathy

Many Singaporeans depend on MRT to travel. So, it’s no wonder that the public grew angrier at SMRT’s top management, especially its flamboyant CEO, Ms. Saw Phaik Hwa, 57, for failing the fix the issue quickly. Some people even call for Ms. Saw’s resignation in Singapore’s speakers corner.

But the real reason why the public are so upset is the perceived lack of empathy from the SMRT’s top management. Listen to what Ms. Saw Phaik Hwa and Mr. Goh Chee Kong says during press conference below, and you can’t help but notice their lack of empathy.

To exhibit an attitude of “business-as-usual” when crisis stuck, is bad for business. To be successful in today’s economy, organisations have to make that emotional connection with their customers. So when some screw-ups happen, don’t just say sorry and give technical explanation that no one understands.

Who cares about the third rail is misaligned with the collectors’ shoes? I don’t. In fact, I don’t give a damn! All I want to know, as a customer, is how SMRT is going to solve my problem, i.e. how SMRT is going to help me go to work or to go to some malls – to do my Christmas shopping.

Unfortunately, as you can see in the video above, Ms. Saw Phaik Hwa failed to deliver empathetic statements. Immediately after the first train disruption, she made the following cold statements, in national television:

I do know that many customers are very unhappy…there is nothing much to say except that we are very sorry for yesterday’s incident…what we can promise is that we will spare no effort in preventing such occurrence. I personally …improving our incident management…especially in the area of giving timely and better information, as well as crowd management.

Well, the train disruptions did happen again, for the second and third time in four consecutive days. No further respond from her. This may not make her a bad CEO (perhaps she had been working hard behind the scene), but this makes her statement sounds like a series of empty words. No wonder she is under intense pressure.

SMRT has to empathise with their customers! That means they need to understand how train disruptions are going to ruin Singaporeans live (the top twitter harsh tag when the incident happened was #SMRTruinslives. It was a huge hit for SMRT’s brand). They need see the problem from customers’ point of view. And tell the customers how SMRT is going to help them.

This implies, in addition to acknowledgement that the train disruption is going to cause great inconvenience to the customers’ lives, the top management has to offer contingency plan to re-assure customers that when it does happen again, SMRT can deploy cheap alternative transports for the customers – quickly and effectively.

Fortunately, SMRT does understand what needs to be done for service recovery. When the MRT broke down for the second time, the company provided free shuttle bus service for the commuters. But unfortunately, SMRT is clueless on how to present this fact. A horrible blunder.

Although, there were some delays and hiccups that upset some customers, the top management should have communicated that SMRT would provide free shuttle bus service as a contingency measure, when the first train disruption occurred. This would calm the customer and minimise damage to SMRT’s brand.

Too bad the problem and the alternative solution aren’t presented in an engaging story. Stories are the best medium to connect emotionally with the customers. SMRT’s top management has to master corporate storytelling, so that they can better project empathy to the customers.

SMRT’s top management has no other option but to master this storytelling skill. The time where top management can just present facts without stories, is over. Today’s management is about presenting facts in stories.

(To be continued…)

Do you agree that the SMRT’s top management has a lack of empathy towards the customers? What are your thoughts on this matter?

In part II of Why SMRT Has To Be More Empathetic And Be a Social Organisation, I’ll discuss SMRT’s failure in addressing the needs of a new breed of customers: the social customers. Stay tuned!

How Steve Jobs Became a Hero to a Samsung Dude

The above is Steve Job’s legendary commencement speech at Standford University in 2005. It has inspired millions of people to pursue their dreams, and in the words of Jobs’, to “stay hungry, stay foolish”.

Fast forward to 2011, he resigned as Apple’s CEO in August. Here are some tributes and praises given to him by millions of Apple fanatics, tech geeks, business executives, and bloggers:

That’s how Steve Jobs made an impact to people’s lives. You see, tech products used to be boring, bland products. Using tech products means downgrading your image to a boring, socially-defunct geeks. But the arrival of the sexy, sleek, user-friendly, and uber-cool iMacs, iPods, iPads, and iPhones changes this image problem.

Suddenly, geeks can look ”hot, rich and glamourous” by using Apple products. Hot babes* now wants to have cool geeks as their boyfriend (only if they own Apple products and they are the long-lost twins of Mark Zuckenberg, Larry Page, or Sergey Brin). And hot babes don’t look hot without an iPhone in their pink Hermes bag.

But that’s not how Steve Jobs made an impact to my life. For a start, I’m not an Apple fan. I’m a Microsoft loyalist (I think Mac OS sucks). Plus, I resisted the temptation to be seen holding the same thing that most people has (an iPhone). I’m a proud owner of Samsung Jet phone (that comes free with 2-year contract). See my beloved Samsung phone below:

I know it doesn’t look glam at all. It’s ok! It serves its function. When I have the means, I’d probably upgrade to Samsung Galaxy SII (yep, the product that looks like iPhone 4 and the one that caused Apple to sue Samsung). (Jobs, if you are reading this, don’t be too upset. I still see you as my hero. Please read on.)

Steve Jobs, to me, is more than just iPads or iPhones. Steve Jobs became my greatest hero and inspiration, because he refused to give-up his dreams. He staged the greatest career came-back in this century when he became Apple CEO in 1997 after he was ousted from Apple’s top management in 1985.

When I first read the life-story of Steve Jobs, I was at the lowest point of my life. I was working in a small, unknown shipping company (while my friends were working for big MNCs), I was paid minimum wages for a college graduate, and I was girlfriend-less. I was so ashamed of my life back then and I thought that was the end of me.

But the life-story of Steve Jobs inspired me. It was kinda “it ain’t over until it is over” moment for me. To me, Steve Jobs was like Mickey (Rocky’s trainer in the movie Rocky) who said, “Get up! You son-of-a-bitch“. Steve Jobs’ story spurred me on. I began to read more books to improve my skills. I took up a Master degree. And I looked for opportunities to get a better job.

Eight years has passed since I first heard about Steve Jobs’ story of sheer perseverance. I’m now working for a large organisation and doing the work that I love. (Thank you Jobs for giving me and others like me such an inspirational story. Your life has impacted millions of people, Apple fan or not.)

Steve Jobs taught me that life isn’t about hitting it right the first time. Life is about persevering and doing the work that you are passionate about. I admired Jobs for that. I wish Jobs a good health and all the best for his new role as chairman of Apple. I hope he continues to inspire us.

Are you also inspired by Steve Jobs’ story? Tell me about it. Share your story in the comment box below.

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*I was joking on the “hot babes” part. But I gotcha for a moment, didn’t I?

Further Readings

Nocera, J. (2011). What Makes Steve Jobs Great. The New York Times

(2011). Steve Jobs: His own words. ZDNet

Steve Jobs: the Short Biography. www.allaboutstevejobs.com

Linzmayer, O. (2006). Steve Jobs’ Best Quotes Ever. Wired magazine.

Merchant, N. (2010). Apple’s Startup Culture. Bloomberg BusinessWeek.

Roanyong.wordpress.com in 2010

The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads Fresher than ever.

Crunchy numbers

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A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 5,500 times in 2010. That’s about 13 full 747s.

 

In 2010, there were 31 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 118 posts. There were 38 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 4mb. That’s about 3 pictures per month.

The busiest day of the year was November 25th with 56 views. The most popular post that day was What is Knowledge Management (KM)?.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were en.wordpress.com, facebook.com, twitter.com, churchwarnings.blogspot.com, and paper.li.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for lee hsien yang girlfriend, toyota downfall, stephen tong, cynefin framework, and 7 pillars of society.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

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What is Knowledge Management (KM)? September 2010
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Toyota’s Downfall: Rapid Growth at the Expense of Knowledge Transfer March 2010
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10 Teamwork Lessons from Invictus September 2010

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Notes from Design Thinking Summit 2010 October 2010
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Three Pillars of City Harvest Church (CHC) October 2008

Winning the War on Terror by Ethical Brainwashing

War on terror has a hefty price tag: $1 trillion – that is how much the United States (US) has spent on wars since 2001 attack of the twin tower. After spending so many resources to fight terrorism, the Americans and their allies are still struggling to justify and win the war on terror. And judging from Gen. Mchrystal’s insubordination and eventual sacking,  the defeat of terrorism remains an elusive goal. Indeed, as evident in the bombing incident in London, Bali (Indonesia), and India, terrorism is becoming like a cancer, it is no longer contained in Afghanistan and Iraq – the two countries where Al-Queda was suspected to be in, but is spreading to other parts of the world.

Worse still, we don’t even know who the terrorists are now. Who would have thought that a blonde and blue-eyed American woman is the jihad Jane? or a US army psychiatrist – Maj. Nidal Malik Hassan, 39 - could kill 13 and wound 31 of his comrades? Terrorists can be found not only in the countries involved in the war against terror – such as Afghanistan, Iraq, the US, and the United Kingdom (UK) – but also in other countries without direct link to the war, such as Singapore. Recently, Singaporeans learned that a full time National Serviceman, Muhammad Fadil Abdul Hamid, 20, is a self-radicalised terrorist.

In the light of this incident, the The Islamic Religious Council of Singapore (Muis) appealed to the Singaporean Moslems to report any unaccredited religious teacher. And Deputy Prime Minister (DPM) Wong Kan Seng, voicing his support to Muis, said that ‘Early intervention is the best way to save a relative or friend from the road to radicalisation.’ No doubt, there is an increasing need for intelligence to safeguard against self-radicalised terrorists. In the US alone, according to the Washington Post, there are no fewer than 850,000 people with top-secret security clearances. And it is heartening to know that the increasing intelligence units and activities help to capture the failed New York bomber, Faizal Shahzad, 30.

But as important as early intervention (Intelligence) can be, we also need to de-radicalise the terrorists so that they can return to the society. And this, I find, is where we (the citizens of the world) have failed miserably.  Consider the following : 74 of the 530 detainees in Guantánamo were suspected or known to have returned to terrorist activity since their release, and Indonesia’s failed deradicalisation programme.  If counter-terrorism efforts are like those of curing cancerous cells, then we are very good in identifying the affected cells (partly because they can be observed), but we are unable to effectively cure them, and thus the cancer continues to spread within our body. It’s no wonder we are on the losing side.

The gist of war on terror is fanatism to an ideology – and therefore it can also be seen as war on ideology. Should the world adhere to Islamic law? Is it true that the western countries are evil? Or should we de-radicalise the extremists? Which version of Islam is correct? The truth (rather than beauty) lies in the eyes of beholder, i.e. people may diagree with what we perceive to be true. Therein lies the problem. In order to win a war on ideology, guns, tanks, and diplomacy are not good enough, we need a more effective means. Building schools and infrastucture is a good way of quelling terrorism, but it is resource-intensive and can be undone by weak governance and rampant corruptions – which are happening at troubled countries like Yemen, Somalia, and Afghanistan.

So, what now? Well, as a saying goes: desperate times call for desperate measures. It is prudent that we turn the terrorists’ weapon against them. That weapon is Coercive Persuasion (a.k.a. Thought Reform, or Brain Wash). In a recent TED talk, a filmmaker, Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy showed us a glimpse of how the Taliban brainwashed children to become suicide bombers. Based on her research, she suggested that the conversion to suicide bombers is done through five processes:

  1. The Taliban separates the children of poor families from their parents by promising food, clothes and shelter for their children, and sends these children to isolated places.
  2. The Taliban teaches these children Koran in Arabic – a language that these children do not understand. The children are also forbidden to read newspaper, radio, or any book without Taliban’s permission.
  3. The Taliban beats these children and deprives them of playing time - effectively making the children hate the world that they live in.
  4. The Taliban starts influencing the children on the ‘glory’ of martyrdom. The Taliban talks about what martyrdom offers (in the after life): honeys and milks – unlimited food, and 72 virgins (in Heaven, of course).
  5. The Taliban shows photos of people dying in Iraq, Afghanistan, and Pakistan.

Many people perceive coercive persuasion as an unethical method. But, the terrorist are using it to gain more followers. While we are considering what is the moral thing to do to win the war on terror, the terrorist are using all kinds of method (including the unethical ones) to undermine our effort. In the first place, who gets to determine what are the right things to do and what are not. Ethics, like other ideologies in life, depends on how you see it. And if there is such thing as ‘Ethical hacking’ (hacking  can be seen as an unethical work), then surely we can innovate a discipline called ‘Ethical Brainwashing’.

Considering that we have limited resources to tackle the growing threats of terrorism, we need to evaluation options. And I’d say that ‘Ethical Brainwashing’ is an appealing solution since it is readily deployable. Once the terrorists are imprisoned, we would be able to control the information that they received. And according to Lipton’s brainwashing processes, unlike Taliban who beats the children, we don’t have to physically abuse the terrorist - which can lead to public outcry as in the case of Abu Ghraib prisoner torture. So in ‘Ethical Brainwashing’, we have a solution which is not resource-intensive, and does not involve torture. A winning solution indeed!

I shall leave the boundaries of this ‘Ethical Brainwashing’ for further discussions (please leave a comment on this post).

Three Doctors and The Right KM Strategy

I had ‘the privilege’ to observe how Knowledge Management (KM) being implemented in health care industry in Singapore recently. National Skin Center (NSC), a public organization that specializes in treating skin diseases, seems to use KM personalization strategy – a strategy that revolves around knowledge transfer from one health care specialist to the other. I went to NSC about two months ago to be treated for ‘strange mosquito-like’ bites that surfaced on my arms, legs, and belly.

When I met the doctor, he was accompanied by an apprentice, who was busy writing down notes about my conversation with the doctor. After hearing my story, the doctor confidently concluded that I was bitten by ‘nasty’ mosquitoes. I was quite puzzled by his diagnosis, since the bite marks were appeared in linear pattern – a sign of bed bugs bites. When I asked him whether bed bugs could be the culprit instead of mosquitoes, his reply was “there is no bed bugs in Singapore due to the cleanliness of our nation”. Several days later, I couldn’t sleep because my arms and legs were so itchy. I decided to turn on the lights, and finally, I saw some bed bugs. To be sure that they are bed bugs, I squashed some of them and saw blood, my blood that is.

The NSC doctor consultation fee cost me about $70, and I received ‘misguided’ advice due to his unwavering faith in Singapore cleanliness. I was not sure why he insisted that Singapore was clean when the nation depended on foreign workers to clear our rubbish. The majority of Singaporeans,  unlike their Japanese counterpart, did not seem to care about public cleanliness. A trip to any hawker center would verify this fact. While his utterly useless advice has certainly hurt my pocket, I was more concerned about ‘false’ knowledge that his young apprentice received. I was wondering whether the apprentice would eventually find out about his mentor ‘misdiagnosis’. Only time will tell…but I’m afraid I will not visit NSC for bed bugs treatment.

Few weeks ago, I had high fever and sore throat. I visited a General Practitioner (GP) – a man in mid-30s – in Bukit Batok. After hearing my illness, he keyed-in the symptoms in a computer software. The software analyzed the data entered, and it indicated that there was 66% chance that my illness was flu. Based on this result, my GP prescribed medicines for flu, fever and sore throat. My condition improved, but I have not fully recovered. This GP is mainly using KM codification strategy where experts codifies their knowledge in the form of notes or into a computer database, so that the knowledge can be reused by others.

Today, I visited another GP – a middle-aged man – in West Coast. After I told him my illnesses – sore throat and dry cough and that I have not been feeling well in the past two weeks, he immediately ‘knew’ that my nose was slightly blocked, although I did not feel it. To show that I did not ‘breathe properly’, he asked me to compare the sound between breathing with my mouth and breathing with one nostril closed. I could tell that I breathe ‘heavier’ with one nostril. The GP explained that I was having breathing issue because I was not completely cured from the flu. I was amazed by his deep insight and the fact that he did not rely on any computer software, or anyone. Incredibly, this GP used his own profound knowledge, accumulated over the years of medical practice. Alas, he was not managing his knowledge effectively.

Comparing the three doctors and how they manage their knowledge (the third doctor has no KM strategy), I can safely deduce that the personalization strategy is more prone to bad decision making than the codification strategy. In the earlier strategy the expert could only access the nearest or available peers. Whereas in the latter strategy, experts could access their peers collective knowledge instantly, and fine tune the knowledge to suit the context. Nevertheless, this does not mean that codification strategy is always superior to the other strategy. The second doctor failed to detect breathing irregularity, because of his lack of tacit knowledge in dealing with flu.

Thus, to get the best of both worlds, experts should apply the two KM strategies in 80-20 combination, where one strategy is more dominantly used than the other, depending on the context. In relatively ‘predictable’ environment, where cause and effect are known, codification should be the dominant strategy. On the other hand, in chaotic environment, where cause and effect are not immediately clear, personalization should be the dominant strategy.

Three Kinds of People to Start Innovation Epidemic in Singapore

I have always loved Singapore. One of the reason is the government’s foresight of what lies ahead. But here is a dilemma: the government could feel that the locals are getting restless with the increasing number of foreigners, but at the same time Singaporeans are not reproducing enough to sustain the nation’s growth. The earlier solution of dandling carrots to encourage Singaporean couples to have babies, does not seems to be very effective. So what’s next? increase productivity and encourage innovation so that Singapore could achieve more with less.

To do so, the government forms a think-tank group called Economic Strategies Committee (ESC), and tasks them to come up with a framework to push the nation into the next stage of its growth. One of the proposals put forward by ESC is to make innovation pervasive in the whole country. Singapore Budget 2010 committee has taken up ESC’s recommendation by setting up Productivity and Innovation Credit – basically a set of tax reliefs to spur productivity and innovation. The Budget 2010 committee has also indicated that the government would boost the R&D sector in order to drive innovation.

I think the government’s strategy has hit the nail on its head. To move forward, Singapore definitely needs to rely more on innovation. However, telling our fellow countrymen that we need to be more innovative to sustain the nation’s economy will only draw curious looks, but not sufficient to win the commitment necessary to spring pervasive innovation. To better engage the population, both the government and citizens need to find out: (1) who should rally majority of Singaporeans to live and breathe “Innovation”? and (2) where could we find these “heroes” ?

To start innovation epidemic, we need to sell the value of innovation in a language and terms that could be understood by the majority of people, without toning down the importance of it. In other words, we need “salesman”. In addition to “salesmen”, we also need “connector”, that is someone who have above average number of connections across all walks of life. Last, but not least, we have to have “maven”, that is someone who gather and develop cutting-edge knowledge. Mavens are often thought leaders that promote breakthrough / new ideas.

Now that we have the answers to first question, where could we find these three kinds of people? The short answer is they could be found in communities. Not any kind of communities though, but a very special kind of community – the community of practice (CoP).

In a CoP, there are regular discussions among people with same interests or passions, but the members do not necessarily have the same level of expertise in the domain knowledge. The experts in the community are the mavens. In addition to the mavens, as in any other communities, a member of a CoP may also belongs to other CoPs. These people are connectors, and they link CoPs through multiple membership and getting to know people from other CoPs. Last but not least, any thriving community would have salesmen – people who promote the community and explain complex knowledge in the community in a way that is easily understood by non-experts.

To summarize, the government has come up with an excellent roadmap to create conducive environment for innovation, by boosting R&D sector and providing tax relief for innovative organizations. In addition to these two strategies, the government should also encourage the “main street” Singaporeans to cultivate communities of practice in Innovation, so that we could help to spread the message and win commitments from fellow Singaporeans, and being recognized for our efforts. For a start, how about identifying the three kinds of people and appointing them as “Innovation Champions”?

References

http://www.esc.gov.sg/attactments/ESC%20Press%20Release%20Annex%20A%20-%20Summary%20of%20Key%20Recommendations%201%20Feb_0346.pdf

http://www.singaporebudget.gov.sg/download/FY2010_Budget_Highlights.pdf

http://www.singaporebudget.gov.sg/speech_toc/download/FY2010_Key_Budget_Initiatives1.pdf

http://www.singaporebudget.gov.sg/speech_toc/download/FY2010_Key_Budget_Initiatives2.pdf

Michael Jackson was not revered in City Harvest Church

City Harvest Church (CHC), who believes in engaging culture to bring Christ to the world, did not pray for Michael Jackson (MJ) – the king of pop – on its’ first english service on Saturday, 27 June, 3.30 – 5.30pm. The deputy senior pastor – Tan Ye Peng -  joked about Obama and advised the members of the church not to worry about the pettiness in life, but did not mention about MJ’s death. Perhaps he is not a fan.

I was surprised not because pastor Tan’s indifference, but due to CHC’s failure to sympathize with MJ’s death, given the connection that the church has with the music industry – the founder’s wife (Sun Ho) is a singer based in the U.S. Furthermore, if I recalled correctly, pastor Kong once mentioned that we should rejoice for people who do good things in life even though they are not Christians. For example, pastor Kong urged us to rejoice for Oprah Winfrey.

Rev. Al Sharpton, a friend of MJ, was quoted in CNN saying, “Michael Jackson made culture accept a person of color way before Tiger Woods, way before Oprah Winfrey, way before Barack Obama.” In addition to MJ’s gift in music, he was also a fashion icon. Many of his trademark fashion style was imitated back in the 1980s.

Of course other than renowned for his contribution in culture and fashion – the two things that CHC thrives in – MJ has flaws such as his involvement in child molestations. Whether those allegations are true or not, it’s hard to deny that he has done many good things (charity works). For full listing of his good deeds, please refer here.  Regarding his faults, the bible (John 8:7) said,”Let he who is without sin cast the first stone”. Thus, we – the Christians – should not be the one who judges MJ’s wrongdoings.

As a follower of CHC, I would definitely heed pastor tan’s advise about not letting the pettiness of life to affect my devotion to God. I’m still and would always love the god’s church – the City Harvest Church.  However, I hope that the church don’t mind her followers like me prayed for MJ, may God blesses his soul in heaven. R.I.P. the king of pop – Michael Jackson, and thank you for creating wonderful songs such as thriller, black and white, smooth criminal, billie jean, and beat it.

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If you have it, flaunt it: why more women are dressing sexier than ever

As the saying goes, women are obsessed with beauty as men are with money and power. At a glance, it seems like the two gender are attracted to different things, but a closer look will reveals that women are trying to charm men with her beauty while men are trying to win women through his “ability” (a.k.a. money and power). Such behavior is embedded in our genes, and it is shared across animal kingdom, including snakes, birds, and others. For example: some male snakes will “dance” to show his vigor to the female ones.

Of course, we know that mankind is superior than animal. First, we have brain, we use our mind not only to make decision, but also to outwit and outlast our rivals. Second – this may seems silly – we wear clothes. Although the later point seems so obvious, in actual fact, it is a great mystery of mankind. Aside from religious explanation, i.e. when man falls into sin, we have no clue on when and why our ancestors start wearing clothes.

In this post-modern age, we believe in many types of freedom, such as free market, freedom of choices, freedom of speech or freedom of expression. We use our mind to judge that freedom is better than oppression. Those who live in first world countries condemn the treatment of women in Afghanistan, where women would be killed for stepping-out of her home without wearing burga. In addition, with our mind, we thought that competition will benefits the whole society, and monopoly – or even duopoly – is detrimental for the whole society.

Taking into consideration the two observations above, plus the fact that overwhelming majority of men are attracted to women’s body (especially cleavage and thigh), let’s analyse the motivation for women to dress sexily on the street, or to post racy pictures of themselves online (for illustration, you can refer to NUTS and ZOO community).

I will unravel this using Game Theory. To simplify things, I assume that all women have equally attractive body. Let’s begin our analysis with all girls in the world agreed not to use their body (i.e. not to dress sexily) to attract men of their dream. This would imply that only women who are born with natural beauty (born-pretty) will successfully attract “desirable” men, while  the not-so-beautiful women (born-odinary) will have to take the “left-over” men, i.e. men who are not desired by the beautiful women.

The born-ordinary women have no fair chance to compete with the born-pretty women. At this point, the born-ordinary women will be frustrated enough to break the all girls agreement: not to use their body to attract men of their dream. The not-so-beautiful women know that by showing some skin, they would be able to compete with the born-beautiful women on equal ground, or perhaps win some of the desirable men over. Please refer to below table for game theoretic perspective:

Competition between Born-Pretty and Born-Ordinary

Competition between Born-Pretty and Born-Ordinary

The above table uses descending numbers to indicate the order of preference, with 1 as the most preferable outcome. We can infer the table as following:

  • The born-pretty mainly prefers to compete using face only, because this would mean that the born-pretty girls only need to take care their faces to guarantee winning with minimum effort. The worst outcome for the born-pretty girls is that when they use their face, but the born-ordinary girls use all their assets, namely face and body. Out of the two remaining choices, following the born-ordinary girls’ strategy will ensure victory for the born-pretty ones.
  • On the flip side, the born-ordinary girls mainly prefer to use both their assets (face and body), while their competitor (the born-pretty girls) uses only one of their assets (face) as this will increase their chance of winning. The worst outcome for the born-ordinary girls is when they use face only, while their competitor use both face and body to attract men. Out of the two remaining choices, using all their assets, namely face & body, is a better strategy than using face only strategy since all women’ body are equally attractive, which will increase the born-ordinary women’s chance of winning

It is clear that using both their face and body is a dominant strategy for the born-ordinary girls, and the born-pretty girls should anticipate the born-ordinary girls to use their dominant strategy. Therefore, the best move for the born-pretty girls is to use both their face and body as well. This completes my explanation on growing number of women, either pretty or not-so-pretty, who dress provocatively to attract men (or some say to boost their self-confidence, which essentially the same thing).

Using similar argument, competition among the born-beautiful women group, or among the born-ordinary women group will drive them to dress sexily as well.

In conclusion, freedom of expression and competition among women are the two “hidden” forces that drive women to dress sexily, or even to take-off their clothes under stifling competition.  Alas, other than coerce the women who flaunts their assets to “cover” themselves like Afghanistan women do, I have no viable solution to deter women from wearing bare minimum clothes, even if I have, we don’t have motivation to share the solution (sorry, the writer is a hot-blooded male).

Note: my analysis above is an over-simplified game-theoretic perspective on why women are dressing sexily. It should not be taken seriously.