My Life (1981 – now): A Review

Happy Water Dragon Lunar New Year! (Gong Xi Fa Cai!) With new year, comes new hopes and aspirations. So I thought I’ll do a review of my life thus far. This is my first time doing a life review.

What triggers me to do a life review? Well, time flies and life is short. So I need to examine whether I have been living the way I want it to be. It’s the right time for a review, because the year 2011 (metal rabbit lunar year) had been so special to me in many ways:

  • January 2011: I got married
  • April 2011: I got promoted (my first-ever promotion in a job)
  • July 2011: I hit the big 3-0 (I’m 30 years old)
  • September 2011: I traveled to central Europe for the first time. I had a super good time there.
  • November 2011: For the first time in my life, I spoke in front of an audience about something that I’m passionate about (no, it’s not directly related to my work).
  • December 2011: the biggest achievement in my life so far: I became a father.

Not bad eh? After all those achievements, you probably think that I’m contented and happy.

But I’m not…

Hold your judgment. I’m not a greedy ungrateful dude that you think I’m. I’m not contented because I miss my life, back in 1999. That’s when everything in my life went so well. I managed to prove people wrong. No one believed I could achieve my dreams. But I did it! I went to National University of Singapore, and I got a pretty girlfriend.

Ah, the sweet taste of victory. This movie clip pretty much described my feelings in 1999.

Oh gosh! Now I get it. I know the result of my life review now. Here it is:

My current life sucks

Yep, that’s true. My life sucks. Despite all my achievements, I don’t feel any glory like the one that I had in 1999. And my current life doesn’t lead me to shout: “I’m the king of the world!” (that’s how I felt back in 1999). I have nothing to shout about now. My life thus far has been average. Average in happiness and success. Simply average in every angle!

It’s not about being grateful for what I have (I’m grateful for everything that I have now). But it’s about being outstanding – not being average. It’s about wanting more and about shaping the world around me, the way I want it. Sounds crazy, doesn’t it? Listen to Steve Jobs in the interview clip below, and you’ll see that I’m not so crazy after all.

I know I’m capable of achieving so much more. I believe in myself. I believe in my ability – because no one else will.

It’s 2012 (water dragon lunar year). And I have bigger dreams now. I won’t tell you what these dreams are, because according to Derek Sivers, I have to keep my goals to myself. But mark my words: I will make these dreams come true – just like I did in 1999. (I will “go get it. Period.”)

How Steve Jobs Became a Hero to a Samsung Dude

The above is Steve Job’s legendary commencement speech at Standford University in 2005. It has inspired millions of people to pursue their dreams, and in the words of Jobs’, to “stay hungry, stay foolish”.

Fast forward to 2011, he resigned as Apple’s CEO in August. Here are some tributes and praises given to him by millions of Apple fanatics, tech geeks, business executives, and bloggers:

That’s how Steve Jobs made an impact to people’s lives. You see, tech products used to be boring, bland products. Using tech products means downgrading your image to a boring, socially-defunct geeks. But the arrival of the sexy, sleek, user-friendly, and uber-cool iMacs, iPods, iPads, and iPhones changes this image problem.

Suddenly, geeks can look ”hot, rich and glamourous” by using Apple products. Hot babes* now wants to have cool geeks as their boyfriend (only if they own Apple products and they are the long-lost twins of Mark Zuckenberg, Larry Page, or Sergey Brin). And hot babes don’t look hot without an iPhone in their pink Hermes bag.

But that’s not how Steve Jobs made an impact to my life. For a start, I’m not an Apple fan. I’m a Microsoft loyalist (I think Mac OS sucks). Plus, I resisted the temptation to be seen holding the same thing that most people has (an iPhone). I’m a proud owner of Samsung Jet phone (that comes free with 2-year contract). See my beloved Samsung phone below:

I know it doesn’t look glam at all. It’s ok! It serves its function. When I have the means, I’d probably upgrade to Samsung Galaxy SII (yep, the product that looks like iPhone 4 and the one that caused Apple to sue Samsung). (Jobs, if you are reading this, don’t be too upset. I still see you as my hero. Please read on.)

Steve Jobs, to me, is more than just iPads or iPhones. Steve Jobs became my greatest hero and inspiration, because he refused to give-up his dreams. He staged the greatest career came-back in this century when he became Apple CEO in 1997 after he was ousted from Apple’s top management in 1985.

When I first read the life-story of Steve Jobs, I was at the lowest point of my life. I was working in a small, unknown shipping company (while my friends were working for big MNCs), I was paid minimum wages for a college graduate, and I was girlfriend-less. I was so ashamed of my life back then and I thought that was the end of me.

But the life-story of Steve Jobs inspired me. It was kinda “it ain’t over until it is over” moment for me. To me, Steve Jobs was like Mickey (Rocky’s trainer in the movie Rocky) who said, “Get up! You son-of-a-bitch“. Steve Jobs’ story spurred me on. I began to read more books to improve my skills. I took up a Master degree. And I looked for opportunities to get a better job.

Eight years has passed since I first heard about Steve Jobs’ story of sheer perseverance. I’m now working for a large organisation and doing the work that I love. (Thank you Jobs for giving me and others like me such an inspirational story. Your life has impacted millions of people, Apple fan or not.)

Steve Jobs taught me that life isn’t about hitting it right the first time. Life is about persevering and doing the work that you are passionate about. I admired Jobs for that. I wish Jobs a good health and all the best for his new role as chairman of Apple. I hope he continues to inspire us.

Are you also inspired by Steve Jobs’ story? Tell me about it. Share your story in the comment box below.

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*I was joking on the “hot babes” part. But I gotcha for a moment, didn’t I?

Further Readings

Nocera, J. (2011). What Makes Steve Jobs Great. The New York Times

(2011). Steve Jobs: His own words. ZDNet

Steve Jobs: the Short Biography. www.allaboutstevejobs.com

Linzmayer, O. (2006). Steve Jobs’ Best Quotes Ever. Wired magazine.

Merchant, N. (2010). Apple’s Startup Culture. Bloomberg BusinessWeek.

Winning this world

I watched a mandarin TV series that depict the founding of Ming dynasty. The founding emperor, Zhu Yuanzhang, was someone who knows how to employ people according to their natural talents. It seems that this ability makes people feel appreciated and could attracts people to your side.

From this TV series, I also noticed that winning people’s heart is somewhat related to Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. First, fulfill physiological needs like food (Physiological needs). This reflected in – Zhu Yuanzhang’s advisor’s – Li Shan Chang’s word: “heaven can be created by a bowl of rice”. As a result of distributing rice to the people, Zhu Yuanzhang won 20,000 soldiers. Second, become a close relative (Love / belonging needs). Zhu Yuanzhang made his greatest generals his sworn brothers, son or nephew.

It can be argued that the necessary conditions to win this world are the ability to win people’s commitment and to employ them according to their strengths. This has been proven by other great emperors such as Liu Bang, the founder of Han Dynasty, and Liu Che, the greatest emperor of Han dynasty.

My observation has implications beyond the realms of ancient china. In the realm of modern business, a charismatic leader ought to possess the two abilities in order to convince the board of directors or win over skeptics, and to drive corporate direction.

Unfortunately not many people realize that in order to rule this world, you need to meet people’s most basic needs and become that people’s close relative. I was approached by an old friend to join some sort of multi level marketing (MLM) scheme. He told me he has a business, and it is about online trading. He also said that he would like to recruit me because I have some potential.

I think the way he approached me is downright reckless for several reasons. First, he doesn’t know my needs. Definitely, my need is not about food as I still have enough money to feed myself. He would need a very strong reason to convince me that his online trading worth my effort. Second, I’m not that close to him to begin with. By asking me so directly after first meeting, he risks to sour our relationship. I would feel that he becomes my friend just for the sake of his “business”.

Hopefully, I’ll be able to do a better job than him. When heaven gives me sign, I’ll start my own company, win some friends to join my cause, and eventually rule this world as CEO (modern emperor)!

Dark Knight and White Knight

Here is news from Reuters.com, the new Batman movie, “The Dark Knight,” raked in $66.4 million in its opening day to set the single-day box office record, according to its distributor Warner Bros. That’s a testimony to how good the latest batman movie is. While many people applaud the performance of the late Heath Ledger as Joker. For me, the most interesting part about “The Dark Knight” is the plot.

I would say it is quite difficult to follow the story line. The main crux of the storyline revolves around a premise that people’s behavior (good or bad) is determined by situation instead of disposition (character). What the Joker said to Harvey Dent in the hospital summarizes everything: “when soldier died, nobody cries (note: because it is expected, it is inside the system), but when an old man died everybody start to panic (note: it is not expected, it is outside the system)”.

Joker argued that such logic can be extended to Batman, who operates outside the boundary of law (i.e. Dark Knight), and Harvey Dent, who trusts the legal system (i.e. White Knight). The fact that Batman is popular means that people of Gotham city distrusts legal system and the law. Joker further suggested that the existence of Batman is bad for the society because Batman inspires people to act outside the law, and the proliferation of Batman-copies indicates that Joker has some truth. With the emergence of Harvey dent, who fights crime within the legal boundary, the popularity of Batman will go south. The Joker knows this, and cleverly manipulate the people of Gotham to force Batman reveal himself, by saying that he will start killing innocent civilians (especially Batman copycats) if Batman refuse to turn himself in.

Other than preventing the two main force of Gotham crime fighting units (Batman and Harvey Dent) work hand-in-hand, the Joker also seeks to destroy their reputation. Here, he plays psychological attacks to agitate Batman, and transform Batman into a killer. Examples:

  1. The Joker continues to rile batman and allow himself to be abused physically by Batman in interrogation room.
  2. The Joker force batman to save either his love interest or Harvey Dent, who represent the future of effective law enforcement in Gotham. Either choice would make Batman a killer.

The Joker also destroys Harvey Dent’s belief on the legal system, by suggesting that the law fails to function as it should. The law fails to save his girlfriend. Harvey Dent turns mad, and became “The Two-Face.”

To prove his theory of situational behavior,  the Joker conducts a “social experiment”, he planted two bombs on two ships, one is full of convicts, and the other is full of civilians. The twist is, both ships will explode on midnight, however the Joker might spare one of them if one of the ship detonates the other. Here, the Joker is out to prove that both convicts and “innocent” civilians will be driven to bomb each other, in order to survive. However, this does not happen, neither group is willing to kill the other. This means that the people of Gotham is still good, and they are not driven to be killer by situations. The Joker is wrong.

I shall leave the rest of details. “The Dark Knight” is truly a great movie with deep psychological plot.

Han Xin and Yuen Qi: Two Similar Civil Servants in Different Time

The story of Han xin catches my attention. This guy practiced “taking small insults for greater purpose” in his early life as a nobody. He took insult such as crawling in between legs of a bully who is bigger and stronger. But, that incident was the best thing that happened to him, because it spur him to achieve his ambition. In a way, he uses his anger as a positive energy to achieve success.

One of the most defining moment in Han Xin’s military career is when his talent is not recognized by Xiang Yu, the greatest warrior at that time. Disappointed, he then joined Liu Bang, the future founder of Han Dynasty.  He served both Xiang Yu and Liu Bang, as one of the lowest rank officers. His chance came when many of Liu Bang’s follower deserted him, including Xiao He. However, Xiao He came back on his own accord two days later with Han Xin. Han xin disappointed with Liu Bang, because he was never promoted despite multiple recommendations by Xiao He. Liu Bang then asked Xiao He, “So many general left, but you chased only Han Xin. What’s so special about him?”. This event centered Liu Bang attention on Han Xin,  and allowed Han Xin to become one of the greatest military commander in history. 

In Summary, Han Xin talent is not recognized although he has talent and connection (with Xiao He), however a single event turned his fortune. One single event that turned his life. Some people may call this event, “big break”, or “The Black Swan”  (After the book by Nassim Nicholas Taleb), or for those who are religious “Divine Intervention”. Whatever you called it, the event has several characteristics: unpredictable, extreme impact, and retrospective predictability.  

Fast forward hundreds of years later, in another time (21st century) and place (Singapore), a young man with similar characteristics and situation existed. His name is Yong Yuen Qi. Like young Han Xin, he has high aspirations, highly talented, but no one recognize his talents despite his efforts. Whether Yuen Qi going to be successful man in the future is uncertain, because the “black swan” or “divine intervention” has not appeared in his life.

Some readers might thought that Yuen Qi ought to excel in small matters first, before he can be trusted in big matters (as what the Bible suggested), and therefore fulfill his ambition and talent. If only the world is this simple, i.e. Everyone who execute small (easier) task would ALL be given bigger (and more difficult) task. This is not always the case:

1. Consider Han Xin who proves himself in managing warehouse, but Liu Bang vilified him exactly because he did small matter (although important, but not valued by Liu Bang). Liu Bang said to Xiao He, “he only good in managing warehouse, but war is different issue. Since he is good in managing warehouse, let’s use his talent and ask him to manage warehouse (only).” 

2. Compare this with Yuen Qi, who proves himself in organizing data such that it is more meaningful and presentable. Yuen Qi’s Boss vilified him exactly because Yuen Qi is doing small task. His boss said, “What’s so great about organizing data?…It is simple, everything is done by Microsoft Excel”. No doubt, what his boss said was correct, Excel did most of the job, but Yuen Qi is the one who has organized mind, not Excel. Excel does not run by itself. His boss failed to see this point, and entrusted Yuen Qi with small matters only. 

In the above examples both Liu Bang and Yuen Qi’s Boss fall into narrative fallacy, i.e. the bosses already convinced themselves that what their subordinate did was no big deal, and thus no “ordinary event” can convince them otherwise. Note that Liu Bang ignored Xiao He’s advises to promote Han Xin for doing good job in managing warehouse. Likewise, Yuen Qi’s boss suggested Excel work is no-brainer task that deserves no credit. Tragic. This confirms that the “Black Swan” effect (or “Divine intervention”) is required to change someone’s life (for better life or worse).

Up to this point, those deviant readers will try to argue that Yuen Qi and Han Xin should find out what their bosses values. I almost believe such advice. This argument is invalid, since it contains logical flaws. Assuming both men (Yuen Qi and Han Xin) knew what their superior wanted. They still could not do it, because their superior would not allow them to do it. Can you think of small matter that is valued by your boss?…If that task is valued then it is big matter in the first place.

Those people who experienced that they can discover what their boss wanted or small task lead to bigger task, are probably due to statistical inference. You could be doing many small things, until someday your boss “find out” that one of the small tasks is actually a big task. (The division of small and big tasks are pseudo in real life). Think about the flip side, there are many individuals who keep on doing countless small tasks without being recognized. If your boss do not want to promote you for political reason, or for fear of position, can you do anything to convince him?

The moment your boss recognize your work, or the time when your boss feels that you are ready for bigger responsibility is largely determined by random event, instead of what you know or do. Alas, like Han Xin and Yuen Qi, there is nothing much you and I can do to influence the occurence of positive random event (Good “Black Swan” or Divine Interference). Just do your work diligently, and wait for opportunity to present itself.      

Selling Hope: How Christianity Can Win Over Atheist

In our daily life, we are struggling with uncertainties and anxieties. Some people are facing financial difficulties, strained relationship with our loved ones, office politics that hinder our career, retrenchment, demotion, etc etc. All this cause stress and emotional pressure to our lives. As Nassim Nicholas Taleb (NNT) cleverly pointed out in his best-selling book, The Black Swan, human being is not designed to face uncertainties, which in my own understanding means we need H-O-P-E to cope with uncertain future.

NNT went further to say that human being tend to underestimate the unpredictability of the future, and overestimate our reasoning skills in an attempt to explain what had happened. To put it simply, human will tend to simplify complex situation in order to develop understanding of the world (NNT termed it platonify).

For example: a business man said that his reason of success is because he never give up. This reasoning is too simplistic. Does this means every people with high determination will be guaranteed success?…I’m sure there are many people with high persistence and drive who DID NOT SUCCEED. Those who persist and succeed might be due to statistical inference. In mathematics term, these “successful” people are the outliers, or oddity caused by voluminous attempts. Unfortunately, only these “successful” people trumpheted “DETERMINATION GUARANTEES SUCCESS”, while the unsuccessful ones stay silent (although they possess the same determination as the successful ones).

What I’m trying to say is many of us (human) need to try numerous times in order to have a meaningful life (not necessarily successful life, but positive life). During these trials and errors, we often face discouragement, frustration, and doubts. Remember, human is not built to face uncertainties. Many of us think that If I’m diligent enough, then Success will come, or If I’m pretty, then I will get good husband. This might not necessarily so. Our expectations might not materialized eventhough we have all the pre-requisites. Future is uncertain. So how do we handle unrealized dreams?…some resort to drugs, some lost their mind, others commit suicide. To put it simply, many of us lost hope.

The funny thing is, none of us recalled that life itself happened because of chance (accident). Human existed because of numerous primates evolution. Evolution chooses survival of the fittest version of life forms. To create life, sheer number of sperms discharged, but only one sperm succeed in penetrating ovum. In the same logic, we send numerous job application, to obtain several interviews, and to get several job offers. The message is simple, in this world ruled by chances, life is a number game, We should not give up, have hope, have faith!

Consider the flip side: There is no guarantee of success no matter how many times we try. Isn’t that a very depressing outlook of life?… Surely, you can find an example that fits the above scenario. Illustration: a determined, diligent, and intelligent fellow who is a poor man throughout his life, no matter how hard he tries to become rich. For some, this is called negative thinking or pessimism. But, this is the reality (also can be confirmed by Theory of Probability). The reality could be unpleasant, and yet, you still need hope to live day by day happily (contented). If you despair, then your life will definetely spiral downward.

The issue is: Are you mentally strong enough to go from failures to failures without losing enthusiasm, before you finally become SUCCESSFUL (or in some cases, you will not be as successful as you wanted to be). Do you need help?..Would you like some encouragement?…Enter Christianity. As a christian, you will be bombarded with three main messages: hope, faith, and love. These three messages are important to our well-being as human.

Please note that I’m simplifying Christianity here (God, forgive me). However, I did that to inform non-believers (Atheist) about the presence of God (to certain extend, it means the existence of HOPE). Jesus Himself said that friendship precedes ministry, which implies Christians need to befriend, before preach, non-believers. It is not possible telling an Atheist about Jesus, before selling the concept of hope. Once an Atheist knows Jesus, then he/she will understand that in Jesus, we can find HOPE.

Girls – Thou Shall Obey (Without Thinking)

Based on over 20 years of personal observation, women are compelled to obey by Power / Authority. If you have worked long enough, I’m sure that you had encountered a female colleague who was following the procedures word by word regardless of situation. I’m not saying this is wrong, but I’m a true believer in “desperate situation called for desperate measures“, i.e. you should make decision based on situation on the field, not according to the book.

In “normal” or routine situation, yes all of us need to play by the book. But how about in “desperate situation”?…for illustrations:

Example #1:
Your boss in overseas holiday and uncontactable, you are a small team supervisor. You have 2 person shortage to run the operation, and in order to meet deadlines, you need to call for 2 additional temp staffs, which will incur cost. Choose your decision below:

a. Activate this 2 temp staffs, offer valid explaination to your boss, and if your boss don’t accept your explaination, you pay for the 2 temp staff wages
b. Boss is the decision maker, I will not make decision on his behalf and run the risk of destroying my good relationship with him.

Most women will answer b, while men a

Example #2:
You are in-charge of writing management report. This report informs client on container movements in sequence during the day. Container A and B move-out at almost the same time (container B moves 5 minutes later). But container B returns 20 minutes earlier than container A. [Sequence of container movement: AB-BA]. You are puzzled by this, but the person-in-charge of container movement is very busy at the moment, and can’t be disturbed. Choose your decision:

a. To be logical I shall record as container B moves-out 5 minutes earlier, and thus returns 20 minutes earlier. [Sequence of container movement: BA-BA]
b. I need to double-check, since the person in charge is of same level, I shall call him anyway and confirm. I better confirm than sorry.

Note: Whether container A or container B move first, it is an insignificant fact. Driver B might move first, but he delay for 5 mins for toilet break, but women will still confirm and double-check. Thus, most women will answer b, while men a.
There is no right and wrong answer in the above examples, I’m just saying that women will tend to (1) avoid argument with bosses (person with authority), however small disagreement it might be; (2) overly concern over petty issues, which might not be significant enough to dedicate time and attention.

The younger the lady is, the stronger the above two tendencies. I would say tendency #1 stands out over what happened to poor young malaysian chinese girl conned by cops to have sexual intercourse. In short, Newpaper (24 June) reported in this way, this girl and her boyfriend are caught driving without valid license. The cops threatened the girl to “give-in” and have sex with the cops, otherwise her boyfriend will be put in jail for 20 years. And the girl complied.

Having said this much, I would like to advise all ladies out there (including my girlfriend), do not be paralyzed by “power” or “authority”. You should think clearly and check all your facts, before you comply or act.

How to handle discouragement

This lesson taken from God’s Answer to Life’s Difficult Question by Rick Warren.

Discouragement is the world deadliest disease, because of three factors. First, it is universal. Everyone experience discouragement at one stage of their lives. Second, it is recurring. Third, it is highly contagious. Someone with negative feelings easily affect others.

Main bible passage: Nehemiah 4

People get discouraged because of four things. Look at verse 10: 10 Meanwhile, the people in Judah said, “The strength of the laborers is giving out, and there is so much rubble that we cannot rebuild the wall.”

  1. Fatigue. (The strength of the laborers is giving out) . When fatigue started?…it says in verse 6: 6 So we rebuilt the wall till all of it reached half its height, for the people worked with all their heart. Fatigue start to strike when we are the middle of some project not in the beginning. In the beginning people are usually in highest energy, after they have been doing it for awhile then doubts and negative feelings started to come in.
  2. Frustation. Trivial things that get into your way. (there is so much rubble)
  3. Lost Confidence. When you said: “It’s impossible” (we cannot rebuild the wall)
  4. Fear. Look at verse 11: 11 Also our enemies said, “Before they know it or see us, we will be right there among them and will kill them and put an end to the work.” The people in Judah were afraid that they would get killed before they can finish the work.

How to handle discouragement?…

  • Reorganize. Look at verse 13: 13 Therefore I stationed some of the people behind the lowest points of the wall at the exposed places, posting them by families, with their swords, spears and bows. Nehemiah reorganize his people! Through this example, we can infer that we should devise new approach, don’t give up, and focus on your priorities. In addition, it helps if you have a support group (Eccl 4: 9 – 12).
  • Remember the Lord. Look at verse 14: ….. Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome. Three things to remember. First, God goodness to you in the past. Second, God closeness to you currently (Hebrews 13: 5 -> Lord is my helper, what can a man do to me). Last, God power in the future. (Phil 4: 13 -> I can do everything through HIM who gave me strength; Rom 8: 31 -> if God is for us, who can be against us; Mark 9: 23 -> everything is possible for him who believes)
  • Resist. Look at verse 14: ….and fight for your brothers, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes. Fight your negative emotions!!! James 4: 7:  7Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

The truth about working for government / statutory boards

Based on my experience working for a stat board, I will try to list down few points that would describe working for government, regardless of divisions / departments

General responsibilities of an executive level

· Lots of writing papers. These papers usually approval papers, which described certain proposals of project and directed to senior management for their approval.

· Lots of project management. An executive does not carry out the project work. Instead, he / she need to appoint contractors to do the job. This contractor work performance would be evaluated by the executive.

Colleagues and working conditions

Majority of government / statutory board employee is in their mid-30 and older. This may pose several problems for young graduates in their 20s. First, the young graduates’ opinions would not carry much weight in the eyes of their colleagues. This issue exacerbated when the 20-something is the supervisor of a group of older staffs (in age and length of service). Second, the older staffs are used to status quo and will resist change. This means that the young graduates will find it difficult to change the ‘this is way we do things here’ attitude.

Another obstacle to good working conditions is the attitude of most staffs aged 50 and above. In addition to slower response compared to young staffs, this group of staff also will try to shift work responsibilities, assign to other staffs, or simply refuse to do meaningful work. In their mindset, they already retired and collecting their retirement benefits.

The working pace is definitely slower compared to private sector. This make government / statutory board job ideal place for those who want work-life balance, young parents, or part-time students.

Promotions and Performance appraisals

Despite the government effort to reduce bureaucracy and promote performance-based remuneration, the fact of the matter is promotions are still based on seniority. Two of the criteria for promotion and appraisals are “length-of-service” and “number of years since last promotion”, which implies an average performer with long service, would be in better position to get promotion compared with a new employee.

Other than seniority, another factor for good appraisals is senior management favor / support. In this case, employee with long service years would also be in better position than new ones, since the ‘old’ employee would know ‘who are who’ in senior management, in addition to the management’s ‘office politics’ play.

Salaries and bonuses

Majority of Civil Service offered salary at 65th percentile of market wage for the same job. In addition, there are several packages throughout the year like 13th month bonus, performance bonus, welfare-bonus (usually cash to spend in insurance, courses, etc), bonuses relating to market conditions (e.g. recently government announced 0.5 month inflation bonus to help civil servant cope with inflation), and generous annual leave (on average: 18 days for executive level).

Humiliation for a bigger purpose

I have posted a shout-out in my friendster that “a great man able to take humiliation for a bigger purpose.” This statement originated from ancient chinese phrase, which basically mean that we shouldn’t be easily provoked. Unfortunately, I heard that somebody attacked this statement by saying that :

  1. “greatness has nothing to do with humiliation”
  2. The statement is wrong because it would infer that, a man who take greater humiliation is a great man.

To tell you the truth, I only hear about the scoff about my shout-out from my girlfriend, and have not check the exact wording. I’m totally not interested in engaging war of words to whoever that disagree with the above phrase.

However, I need to remind you that I do not like a person who uttered half-truth, because it indicates that the person is a liar, deceit, swindler, etc etc… Before I go off-track, an example of Half-truth is point no 2 above. If you can’t see my point, let me highlight to you that point no 2 eliminates the phrase “humiliation for a bigger purpose.” let me repeat: FOR A BIGGER PURPOSE. It is NOT all kinds of humiliation.

Whoever agrees with point no 2 has lack of depth, not to mention try to pose as intelligent person. Seriously, you need to have clarity of the whole issue (i.e. look at the bigger picture) before you attacked my shout-out (i.e. you act).